A letter to the Widow of Major Maxwell Mahama

Betty Ayagiba, the founder of widows and orphans’ movement (WOM), who became a widow herself in 1988 says, ‘I wish God could put a mark on every body’s forehead. So we know how long they have to live’. And I will add to this statement ‘and how they would die’.

Being barely 2 years when my dad died, I saw the struggles at first hand my mum (Betty Ayagiba) had to go through. The emotional, psychological and financial struggles she had to go through are not what I would wish for even the worse person on the planet earth.

I know in the coming days, weeks, months and years there will be times that you will feel like crying but may not be able to because of your children. There will be times when you might think you are going crazy because of the pain and the burden you now carry on your shoulders and in your soul. You may be pushed to act contrary to your nature like the case of my mum who was heard warning a fowl to stay off her path in broad daylight. Even if this ever happens to you although I pray not, don’t ever despair. In fact, there may be times when you might think the whole world is against you.

But I encourage you to hold on. Don’t ever give up.Take one day at a time.Things might get worse, which I pray do not happen in your case, but with God you shall surely overcome.

Always remember your lovely spouse who is proudly cheering you on.

Aspire to be the widow that your husband would be proud of.

Written by:

Fati Abigail Abdulai

National Director,

Widows and Orphans Movement (WOM)